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[Haz40 WANTED $1,167 Outlaw]

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Very interesting post mate. I did wonder what had happened to you after the poker win and you last saying you’d lost your job. Great to see you’ve found work.Unfortunately many of us have been in a similar position and know too well what it feels like. It sounds like certainly taken the right steps and if your plan is to stop everything gambling related i wish you all the luck in the world achieving that.

[Fairzz WANTED $30 Outlaw]

Hi Haz, Yeah the poker went on the back burner whilst I started looking for work and thankfully found a job quickly, not the best in the world but works work. Its a shame I have to do this as I would be lying if I said I didnt love it because I do. I love the thrill the feel the ups and downs but recently the downs have been coming harder and faster than in the past and thats not plausible anymore for me. Hopefully one day in the future I can get to a point where I can join you guys in the poker again cause it was a good laugh and play for fun and enjoyment rather than doing my bollocks in on book of dead or chilli on the second screen.

Look after yourself and thanks for the kind words.

[Haz40 WANTED $1,167 Outlaw]

Hope so mate. After 30 odd years i feel i finally have a bit of control in gambling. I’d love to just play with what i can afford to lose but i know when i do I’m so close to been tilted to losing everything it’s scary. I think the most competitive gamblers are the worst. We just don’t want to lose at all costs and that means we end up going all or nothing.

[Malkychamp WANTED $486 Outlaw]

Sorry to hear Fairzz. It is good now atleast that you can sit back and see its not a get rich quick scheme. Please don’t dissmiss GA though i haven’t been through this myself but did attend meetings when i had a friend going through real troubles hearing stories of others really did open my eyes to what troubles people can and do get themself into through gambling. Not sure if this is helpful in anyway way but for me personally i would say i also have an addictive personality but i dont really value money all that much so am kind of emotionless when playing. I try to use my addictive personally to an advantage I have set goals when i started it was daily/weekly/monthly and yearly I would persist no matter what to achieve these goals. This was actually something i took from a random guy at 1 of the meetings. It has really helped me to keep going the direction i want to in life, i think this can be really helpful not only keeping your mind off gambling but focused on other things that you want to achieve. Is there anything that you have wanted to do but just never had the time or money to do so? Try creating a plan and a time frame where it could be a reality and go for it. If it helps mine was to visit machu picchu and after starting my goals list i visited there after 7 months so of course it did take some time. The other was adding new hobbies running was my hobby of choice as it was something i used to do as child was also something i could do anytime anywhere really. I started this 4 years ago and still do it to this day, The list is your own if you choose to try this so you can add whatever you like of course.

Good luck mate

[Fairzz WANTED $30 Outlaw]

I feel this is the same. I MUST LEAVE UP. I will risk EVERYTHING to get there because once ive risked everything to get up I can never say I didnt try. Thats the mindset the entire time till exactly 1 seconds after that balance hits zero which it then hits me what I have done and how much has been lost… It fucking sucks so I feel you 100%

[Fairzz WANTED $30 Outlaw]

Malkychamp wrote:

Sorry to hear Fairzz. It is good now atleast that you can sit back and see its not a get rich quick scheme. Please don’t dissmiss GA though i haven’t been through this myself but did attend meetings when i had a friend going through real troubles hearing stories of others really did open my eyes to what troubles people can and do get themself into through gambling. Not sure if this is helpful in anyway way but for me personally i would say i also have an addictive personality but i dont really value money all that much so am kind of emotionless when playing. I try to use my addictive personally to an advantage I have set goals when i started it was daily/weekly/monthly and yearly I would persist no matter what to achieve these goals. This was actually something i took from a random guy at 1 of the meetings. It has really helped me to keep going the direction i want to in life, i think this can be really helpful not only keeping your mind off gambling but focused on other things that you want to achieve. Is there anything that you have wanted to do but just never had the time or money to do so? Try creating a plan and a time frame where it could be a reality and go for it. If it helps mine was to visit machu picchu and after starting my goals list i visited there after 7 months so of course it did take some time. The other was adding new hobbies running was my hobby of choice as it was something i used to do as child was also something i could do anytime anywhere really. I started this 4 years ago and still do it to this day, The list is your own if you choose to try this so you can add whatever you like of course.

Good luck mate

Thank you that really does help, Keeping my mind away from it is now the next thing I am concerned about (says he talking about it). I need to find a way to positively use the money that would be spent gambling and enjoy spending money on items or experiences again. I have greatly lost that sense of pride of owning something because I worked for it. Anything that I have bought in the past year if not more has been because of winning. In that moment I rush out and buy something I want and kept it as a sense of YEAH I WON THAT…. right up until I got into a deep loss hole and then the item went to cash generator for food, rent or more gambling funds. Ive hit a point where theres nothing of value left and I deeply want to find things I want and earn them again because I got up and went to work not just because I got fucking lucky finally on the slots.

A list of stuff to do and buy and a plan to save is something I will defo channel that energy into thank you 🙂

[Haz40 WANTED $1,167 Outlaw]

It’s the psychology of the competitive nature in us. Not wanting to lose at all costs. I’ve lost a grand before all because i was £60 down. Crazy when you think about it. Your bang on when reality kicks in it hurts badly but even then I’m thinking it’s not over yet making stupid plans to play more to try and win it back. It’s having the ability to write off a small loss saying well it’s beat me tonight it’s not the end of the world £50 down. I’m starting to be able to do that but it’s taken years. I hope like you say one day you can be in that position so you can play poker with no risks involved.

[Malkychamp WANTED $486 Outlaw]

Sorry to be nosey dont have to answer but do you still go out and socialise? i only ask as when my friend was having troubles he used to hide away in his flat all the time and make alot of excuses and always have a reason for just sitting in and not going out.

[Fairzz WANTED $30 Outlaw]

Malkychamp wrote:

Sorry to be nosey dont have to answer but do you still go out and socialise? i only ask as when my friend was having troubles he used to hide away in his flat all the time and make alot of excuses and always have a reason for just sitting in and not going out.

Im an only child so being alone is fairly normal for me. I was a nerdy gamer and still am to be honest and most of my friends are similar. Now that I live away from them by some distance we mostly hangout online and game together but beyond that we dont see each other in person unless I go home for a day or two. I have one or two friends I see here semi regular but unfortunatly we are all adults that work shift pattern jobs and we can go weeks even months without having similar times off or free time. I wouldnt say I have made excuses to gamble but I would defo say I have been out with them when I have been in a gambling session in the morning and have played on my phone whilst with them to carry on the streak be it good or bad…

[Malkychamp WANTED $486 Outlaw]

Thats great even speaking online is much better than blocking everyone out alot of people retreat into a shell and not want to talk or interact with anyone. When i said making excuses i didnt mean to gamble meant to not want to speak to other or go out. Problem shared is a problem halved cliche i know but very true

[Geezawin WANTED $270 Outlaw]

Good luck mate and i wish you all the best . A lot of good advice there .  And i hope you can use it .

[St Stevie25 WANTED $254 Outlaw]

Hi Fairzz….

I read all your story & I can relate to you, I’m a bit older than yourself and decided not to give up on gambling, lasting to gamble my head off for more years than you’ve lived.

A couple off pointers for you is, you/me have a dangerous addiction, it does not matter how much we win, the old saying about a room full of money is that a gambler will always ask for a bigger room. As no amounts of winning will be enough, No Amounts.

This is hard to get into your Gambling head, different people have different ways and means to give up gambling.

A few suggestions is… Load up YouTube on a quiet night of clear thinking and listen to

It will help you understand your illness, and help you prepare for the future.

1. Do an act of kindness everyday for someone who does not know about it.

2. Get a hobbie, one that you enjoy, not something that’s seen as doing good.

3. Remember your Sick & need recovery time, usually for life.

4. Make amends to folk ? Helping you recover.

5. Be nice to yourself & remember all gamblers have a selfishness about them, so treat yourself more often.

6. Find someone to confide in, who you can goto on days your feeling bad or isolated.

7. Talk about your addiction & what triggers you feel. Or post here, if it helps you.

8. Only ever carry cash, leave all debit cards etc in the house.

9. If/When buying anything big, ask to meet someone to go shopping with you.

10. Find a routine that your comfortable with, to help in your day to day life, try not to get Down about not being able to gamble & see it as freeing your time up for more happy-go-lucky times.

And most importantly, do not feel bad about being an addict, as I’m sure your a great dude, and learn to love yourself again. ♥️???

[Malkychamp WANTED $486 Outlaw]

Excellent post stevie!!! Great video also one phrase that stuck has to of been ‘you don’t have a gambling problem , you have a living problem where gambling is the solution’. Worth a watch addict or not ?

[Ha Hacko1 WANTED $181 Outlaw]

I hope you can be strong and beat your demons mate at a young age, I’m in my forties now and have battled long and hard with mine and they still win.

There has been some great advice offered in the above posts and I heed you to take notice of them.

Dont be like me a lifelong gambling degen it’s not big and it’s not clever, it’s hard and it stinks and it’s weak.

I wish you all the luck in the world

[Fairzz WANTED $30 Outlaw]

Stevie25 wrote:

Hi Fairzz….

I read all your story & I can relate to you, I’m a bit older than yourself and decided not to give up on gambling, lasting to gamble my head off for more years than you’ve lived.

A couple off pointers for you is, you/me have a dangerous addiction, it does not matter how much we win, the old saying about a room full of money is that a gambler will always ask for a bigger room. As no amounts of winning will be enough, No Amounts.

This is hard to get into your Gambling head, different people have different ways and means to give up gambling.

A few suggestions is… Load up YouTube on a quiet night of clear thinking and listen to

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It will help you understand your illness, and help you prepare for the future.

1. Do an act of kindness everyday for someone who does not know about it.

2. Get a hobbie, one that you enjoy, not something that’s seen as doing good.

3. Remember your Sick & need recovery time, usually for life.

4. Make amends to folk Helping you recover.

5. Be nice to yourself & remember all gamblers have a selfishness about them, so treat yourself more often.

6. Find someone to confide in, who you can goto on days your feeling bad or isolated.

7. Talk about your addiction & what triggers you feel. Or post here, if it helps you.

8. Only ever carry cash, leave all debit cards etc in the house.

9. If/When buying anything big, ask to meet someone to go shopping with you.

10. Find a routine that your comfortable with, to help in your day to day life, try not to get Down about not being able to gamble & see it as freeing your time up for more happy-go-lucky times.

And most importantly, do not feel bad about being an addict, as I’m sure your a great dude, and learn to love yourself again. ♥

Thank you, I will defo have a look at the video and a few more when I have time.

Thanks as well for the pointers and help I will 100% read those many times in the coming months or years as mantras to work by going forward

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