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[Be Bert pool WANTED $4 Outlaw]

Great advice…….,

my solution ………push her in the canal. Job done.

[bigbucks1983 WANTED $47 Outlaw]

I think now is a good time to talk to her, the fact she asked if its wrong she wants to go back today means deep down she knows its getting out of control but also she was still looking for your permission to do so. Its probably given you a great opportunity to talk about it. Hope it all goes well and doesn’t end up as a full on barny.

[Haz40 WANTED $1,167 Outlaw]

bigbucks1983 wrote:

I think now is a good time to talk to her, the fact she asked if its wrong she wants to go back today means deep down she knows its getting out of control but also she was still looking for your permission to do so. Its probably given you a great opportunity to talk about it. Hope it all goes well and doesn’t end up as a full on barny.

Cheers mate it certainly won’t end up in a barny but yeah your right it needs sorting. I’m going to try and persuade her to self exclude. I’m going to do it anyway so hopefully she’ll follow suit. Thanks again for the great advice.

[Winningbird WANTED $574 Outlaw]

Do what my other half says to me. Your wages, you do what you want with them, but once they’re gone, don’t ask me for money. He pays all the bills, mortgage, and both car taxes but I pay my insurance. I work part time too. He does give me money for slots and bingo every now and again just so he can go on xbox in peace though, or if he wants me to go out and leave him to do some DIY. We have money for emergencies or house things, but not to spend on shit. That’s what my wage is for 🙂 once daughter has everything she needs, that’s when it’s my turn to spend 🙂

 

[Haz40 WANTED $1,167 Outlaw]

Winningbird wrote:

Do what my other half says to me. Your wages, you do what you want with them, but once they’re gone, don’t ask me for money. He pays all the bills, mortgage, and both car taxes but I pay my insurance. I work part time too. He does give me money for slots and bingo every now and again just so he can go on xbox in peace though, or if he wants me to go out and leave him to do some DIY. We have money for emergencies or house things, but not to spend on shit. That’s what my wage is for once daughter has everything she needs, that’s when it’s my turn to spend

 

Very similar wb ?. I suppose it is her money and she can do what she wants with it. I just don’t want her to lose what she works hard for. Plus i don’t want to be persuaded to go with her. Btw DIY are you sure that’s what your fella does when your out ? ??

[thunderball6 WANTED $272 Outlaw]

My misses , is the same on them community slots at bingo.  Thinks nothing to putting a few hundred in them . Oh we don’t go out much she says . Yeah no fucking wonder.  But when I put 30 pound online out off her PayPal, that’s a big fucking deal .

[Green2711 WANTED $492 Outlaw]

That’s a hard one mate. As someone going through a gambling addiction I can say there is not much you can say or do that will get her to stop, that will only happen when she actually wants to stop. Even if she excludes from the arcades and the bingo halls I can tell you that even with those blocks in place if it was me I would still find a way around it whether it was asking a friend to use their account or just finding a place I haven’t excluded from….maybe that’s just me but I doubt it.

If you can have a chat and get her to stop or at least get it under control then that’s great but the main thing would be to not be an enabler, perhaps don’t go to the arcades with her just make up an excuse if you have too like your too tired and don’t put your own money in which I know might be hard for you as I know you like a flutter as well.

I hope she manages to stick to her limits though matey. All the best to yourself and let us know how you get on.

I was actually going to make a thread about relationships and gambling a few weeks back but that was when almost every thread was call outs and everyone was at each others throats so I never bothered.

[Winningbird WANTED $574 Outlaw]

Haz40 wrote:

Winningbird wrote:

Do what my other half says to me. Your wages, you do what you want with them, but once they’re gone, don’t ask me for money. He pays all the bills, mortgage, and both car taxes but I pay my insurance. I work part time too. He does give me money for slots and bingo every now and again just so he can go on xbox in peace though, or if he wants me to go out and leave him to do some DIY. We have money for emergencies or house things, but not to spend on shit. That’s what my wage is for once daughter has everything she needs, that’s when it’s my turn to spend

 

Very similar wb . I suppose it is her money and she can do what she wants with it. I just don’t want her to lose what she works hard for. Plus i don’t want to be persuaded to go with her. Btw DIY are you sure that’s what your fella does when your out ?

I know for a fact he’s been doing DIY these past few weeks because we’ve been doing daughters bedroom Haha. Now it’s done though I wonder what excuse he will come up with ?

As for being persuaded to go with your wife, could you not self exclude your self so cannot enter? That way she can’t ask you to go, because you’ll just be turned away. If you don’t want to be self excluded, maybe just tell her you want to calm down with the spending on gambling, and she should do it from home if she’s going to do it. At least that way, you can keep an eye on how much she is spending, and you can stay in your comfies with a beer 🙂

 

 

[Haz40 WANTED $1,167 Outlaw]

I am going to self exclude. Tbh i hate the place it’s shit. Don’t even like or enjoy the slots. I’m barred from bingo anyway ( my choice) so that’s my next step. Hopefully then things will improve. Thank you ?

[Winningbird WANTED $574 Outlaw]

It’s the rtp that keeps me away from land based. I go to bingo every week and happily walk through the casino area without an urge. Good choice to self exclude, hope your lady calms down with the slot spend (:

[Biohazard WANTED $675 Outlaw]

Sorry to hear this Haz. I’ve never been in this situation personally, where the person in question is someone close to me, so I don’t have much advice to offer outside of what has already been offered!

You’ve had problems yourself, and you know this person better than anyone, it sounds to me like you’re the one best placed to help her. What works, or has worked for you?

Hope you both get past this. All the best!

[whoswho WANTED $116 Outlaw]

Take her into a room with a bed, invite 4 strangers over (preferably black) tell her if she wants to gamble she has to earn her way and it starts today with 4

[Haz40 WANTED $1,167 Outlaw]

Biohazard wrote:

Sorry to hear this Haz. I’ve never been in this situation personally, where the person in question is someone close to me, so I don’t have much advice to offer outside of what has already been offered!

You’ve had problems yourself, and you know this person better than anyone, it sounds to me like you’re the one best placed to help her. What works, or has worked for you?

Hope you both get past this. All the best!

Thanks mate. What works is staying away from the town centre. We live in a village about 7 miles away and tbh don’t really have any need to go into town. Sometimes we need e cig stuff on a Saturday then 5 hours later it’s going home time so recently I’ve been going on my way to work to stop the need to go at the weekend. It’s a bit shit really cos it can stop me putting some bets on on a Saturday cos i can happily take £50 to town and leave cards at home. Thing was i gave her £500 of my book of dead winnings and i think it was blowing a massive hole in her pocket. We’ve always shared if we won and I’m a nightmare at lying and can’t keep things to myself lol. The only good part nowadays is she knows if she loses i won’t give her money to gamble with.

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