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3rd February 2019 at 7:40 pm #46089
Hi ZoeR91…. Nice to meet you & congrats on being honest ? in writing your story, there some good advice itt already that you should think seriously about before you end up in debt & alone… Is it better to tell your partner? Yes it is.. Your relationship should be strong enough to withstand with what is a minor hiccup.. Your not in debt Yet or any serious trouble and as you’ve said, if you don’t calm down with the slots it’s gonna get a whole lot worse.
If you can’t do a GA meeting try using YouTube for a GA speaker whos talk/Sharing his experience will help loads.
I’m afraid like me your an addict.. I’m 20 years older than you & believe me it’s not worth it, even if yiu get a win you’ll want more and more… Its the old question if you could fill a room with money an addict will always ask for a bigger room ?
Let your partner help you recover, and start to enjoy the finer things in life…. Good luck in your travels & remember a gambling win is only a rush for a few seconds, the memorys with your partner will last a lifetime ???
13rd February 2019 at 8:55 pm #46109Thank you so much everyone for your great advice. I already feel much better in the fact that I’ve admitted my problem, a tiny weight is off my shoulders! And for the first time in 2 years I’ve managed a whole day with no gambling ?? I know my journey is going to be incredibly difficult, the next few weeks will be the toughest, but I’m going to follow everyone’s great advice and look into exclusion software
333rd February 2019 at 9:06 pm #46110Thank you so much everyone for your great advice. I already feel much better in the fact that I’ve admitted my problem, a tiny weight is off my shoulders! And for the first time in 2 years I’ve managed a whole day with no gambling I know my journey is going to be incredibly difficult, the next few weeks will be the toughest, but I’m going to follow everyone’s great advice and look into exclusion software
really well done, as with all addictions the key is to take it each day at a time and before you know it the days will become weeks, the weeks will become months and before you know it you’ll barely be thinking about it and it will no longer be a big part of your life.. I wish you the absolute best of luck with it and I’m glad you already feel the weight being lifted.. admitting it is often the hardest bit
3rd February 2019 at 9:15 pm #46113Well done on getting through the day.
Like eight says, the time soon goes and soon it will be weeks, then months, then years. What will give you more motivation as the months go on is seeing a healthier bank balance; the debts will reduce over time and your savings will increase.
If you ever feel the need to gamble, if people around you are not aware of the problem, then open a thread up on here. Theres always someone on at all times day and night and I know a good few members on here who will happily chat with you (including me) so you can vent or talk through any difficulties your having.
You got through today – do the same tomorrow.
3rd February 2019 at 9:41 pm #46118One day at a time, Zoe and remember to accept the things you cannot change, the courage to change the things you can and the wisdom to know the difference ?
13rd February 2019 at 9:45 pm #46120Well done on getting through the day.
Like eight says, the time soon goes and soon it will be weeks, then months, then years. What will give you more motivation as the months go on is seeing a healthier bank balance; the debts will reduce over time and your savings will increase.
If you ever feel the need to gamble, if people around you are not aware of the problem, then open a thread up on here. Theres always someone on at all times day and night and I know a good few members on here who will happily chat with you (including me) so you can vent or talk through any difficulties your having.
You got through today – do the same tomorrow.
That is so kind, thank you! Opening this thread has helped a lot already, it’s like all the thoughts I’ve kept to myself for so long I’m finally sharing, even if it is with strangers on the internet ?
I’m not going to lie, I’ve thought about gambling probably 50 plus times today, the urge is huge, but there is a small relief that I’ve managed a day. I really hope I can look back in a week and say I’ve lasted a week!
Thank you for listening to my rants!
3rd February 2019 at 9:46 pm #46121One day at a time, Zoe and remember to accept the things you cannot change, the courage to change the things you can and the wisdom to know the difference
Wise words ? I definitely don’t feel as awful as I did this time yesterday, here’s hoping that things can only get better ??
3rd February 2019 at 10:10 pm #46124Just reading through the posts and wanted to pick up on one of your replies. Your looking a week ahead don’t. Look at today. Then when it’s tomorrow it’s only tomorrow and the next day as so on. Remember you only have to stop for one day and that’s today. Tomorrow will be the same. You’ll will only have to stop for that day. Each day you wake up you say today I’m not going to gamble. Just today and say the same thing to yourself everyday. ?
3rd February 2019 at 10:22 pm #46126Just reading through the posts and wanted to pick up on one of your replies. Your looking a week ahead don’t. Look at today. Then when it’s tomorrow it’s only tomorrow and the next day as so on. Remember you only have to stop for one day and that’s today. Tomorrow will be the same. You’ll will only have to stop for that day. Each day you wake up you say today I’m not going to gamble. Just today and say the same thing to yourself everyday.
That is great advice. I will defo take that on board. I guess a day is much easier to achieve then a week ? thank you!
4th February 2019 at 1:13 am #46122I know exactly how you feel. I won 2600 euros on bonanza in November. The next day i lost it all and added another1200 loss on top of it.
My wife doesnt have a clue about my gambling addiction. So i hid the loss with a creditcard transfer.
But decided i couldnt go on like i was. Id loose my wife, home, kids, everything…
and all i could think of was redepositing and try to win it back. Instead i managed to find the willpower and excluded myself from all casinos.
Havent gambled sine, card is paid back and I’ll never put myself in that spot again.
When i get the urge, i go to twitch or youtube and watch other ppl play. Not quite the same, but if i start i know it’s just a matter of time before i go off the deep end.
Best og luck to you Zoe.
Get gameban, and i promise you that you will feel a relief that is like no other. You will feel that you accomplished something. And for the first time in a long time you will lower your shoulders.
Atleast i did.
4th February 2019 at 1:14 am #46125ZoeR91 gamstop is the way forward .i used it last year for 6 months ,its not easy but in that 6 months i managed to save £10,000 and now mortgage free.back on the slots again doing my balls in so I may well go back to gamstop if I start losing control again .best regards.
4th February 2019 at 12:08 pm #46193Zoe, if you feel you have no control, then register with Gamstop, and set it to 5 years.
Gambling is crazy addictive, Your actually not in a bad position right now.. but you could be a few years down the line, it has literally ruined people’s lives. imagine being 60,000 in debt, and being overdrawn.. Register with gamstop, and move on with your life.
Give yourself a goal.. ”I’m going to save £3000 and go to Thailand”/…. whatever it might be that you fancy doing.
You are not in a terrible situation,atleast you have minimal debt,get signed up to gamban,i was in a bad situation from gambling years ago,over 40k on credit cards/bank loans,ended up basically costing me my whole wages for 3 years to cover these things,i cancelled credit cards and would not have one again for gambling…maybe talk to your partner and explain your problem and that you have registered with gamban if you need some help with your money for real life outgoing if your account is now empty,hope you get it sorted.
4th February 2019 at 7:21 pm #46346Hi Zoe…. Hope you’ve had a gamble free day today ? for your 2nd day in total. ????
14th February 2019 at 9:30 pm #46388Hi Zoe…. Hope you’ve had a gamble free day today for your 2nd day in total.
Hello!
i got through a second day with no gambling and surprisingly I feel amazing for it! Today was much easier and every time I thought about gambling I tried to distract myself and it actually has worked. Thank you for checking in that’s really kind ?
114th February 2019 at 10:15 pm #46399Hi Zoe…. Hope you’ve had a gamble free day today for your 2nd day in total.
Hello!
i got through a second day with no gambling and surprisingly I feel amazing for it! Today was much easier and every time I thought about gambling I tried to distract myself and it actually has worked. Thank you for checking in that’s really kind
Your welcome ?
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