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15th January 2019 at 10:41 pm #39140
You guys and girls are all legends!
I’m sorry to hear you’re going through a tough time @realwhiskers but trust me you’re gonna get through it. You seem pretty genuine and hard working.
I’m in a very similar boat to you but right now making sure any debt payments are made before I stupidly go and spunk the rest. I’d definitely try and not worry so much and it’s important to find a hobby or something to do to take your mind off things. Theres plenty to do that doesn’t cost any money like go for a run or a walk and take in some fresh air. Listen to feel good music as others have suggested .
Most important thing is to talk to StepChange and even to those closest to you and people will understand and help.
As pretty much everyone else has suggested, I’m more than happy to chat or help in some way that I can just to put a smile on your face. Take it easy buddy.
115th January 2019 at 10:42 pm #39141Maybe Im being harsh.
Just take the offer for help, get that first payment paid and stop dwelling on your mistakes, you will never move forward otherwise.
Multiple people have offered you multiple help in multiple of your threads and yet you seem to turn it down? Maybe its raw cash you want?
Ive been where you are, the only way to move forward is to start helping yourself.
215th January 2019 at 10:44 pm #39142Thanks dude! I’m gonna sleep in a moment, but definitely will wake up to some music. Feeling positive after tonight, really am!
I don’t want raw cash, what I’ve been offered is amazing! And no way could I take a payment of £496 off someone when they’re having a baby and short of cash themselves. If he offered me raw cash I’d of said the same. Payment to my plan is far better than cash anyway. Sometimes this support of just people being there has helped me hugely.
15th January 2019 at 11:05 pm #39147Maybe Im being harsh.
Just take the offer for help, get that first payment paid and stop dwelling on your mistakes, you will never move forward otherwise.
Multiple people have offered you multiple help in multiple of your threads and yet you seem to turn it down? Maybe its raw cash you want?
Ive been where you are, the only way to move forward is to start helping yourself.
All I know is people do need help at times and the first step is asking for it, you have been there you say and thankfully you got out of it, maybe you look at things differently, maybe you had plenty of help or maybe you just got out of it yourself?
Yes sometimes i read on here things that are obviously people wanting money, the OP has never asked for it, infact he has turned it down, asking for work etc.
So I think it’s a genuine case, we have exchanged numbers and I will speak to him tomorrow at some point, and arrange a meet up but more importantly he will always be able to ring when he gets low. Sometimes that is all anyone wants in life, after all it’s sometimes easier to talk to a stranger than a member of your family or close friends, especially when it relates to gambling etc.
Anyway much love.
“Don’t let your eyes decieve you, In complete darkness, We are all the same it’s only our knowledge and wisdom that separate us”
2215th January 2019 at 11:23 pm #39161Maybe Im being harsh.
Just take the offer for help, get that first payment paid and stop dwelling on your mistakes, you will never move forward otherwise.
Multiple people have offered you multiple help in multiple of your threads and yet you seem to turn it down? Maybe its raw cash you want?
Ive been where you are, the only way to move forward is to start helping yourself.
All I know is people do need help at times and the first step is asking for it, you have been there you say and thankfully you got out of it, maybe you look at things differently, maybe you had plenty of help or maybe you just got out of it yourself?
Yes sometimes i read on here things that are obviously people wanting money, the OP has never asked for it, infact he has turned it down, asking for work etc.
So I think it’s a genuine case, we have exchanged numbers and I will speak to him tomorrow at some point, and arrange a meet up but more importantly he will always be able to ring when he gets low. Sometimes that is all anyone wants in life, after all it’s sometimes easier to talk to a stranger than a member of your family or close friends, especially when it relates to gambling etc.
Anyway much love.
“Don’t let your eyes decieve you, In complete darkness, We are all the same it’s only our knowledge and wisdom that separate us”
Glad you replied and much kudos to you for your offer of help to RealWhiskers, Im not doubting his genuinity like I said I have been down the same mindset as him (I believe, feeling of hhopelessness/loneliness not wanting to carry on etc) and got somewhat through it myself.
I guess my point was, dont be ashamed to accept help, my father always preached to me “dont look a gift horse in the mouth”.
If I was in this position I would reluctantly take up the offer of the first payment, Id swallow my pride knowing I can move forward.
I read the thread from start to now in one flow so maybe it read different but I just felt the OP didnt want to move fforward.
Anyways, I hope you pull through this RealWhiskers, its completely possible and in years to come maybe you’ll look back and be a stronger pperson.
15th January 2019 at 11:28 pm #39167Maybe Im being harsh.
Just take the offer for help, get that first payment paid and stop dwelling on your mistakes, you will never move forward otherwise.
Multiple people have offered you multiple help in multiple of your threads and yet you seem to turn it down? Maybe its raw cash you want?
Ive been where you are, the only way to move forward is to start helping yourself.
All I know is people do need help at times and the first step is asking for it, you have been there you say and thankfully you got out of it, maybe you look at things differently, maybe you had plenty of help or maybe you just got out of it yourself?
Yes sometimes i read on here things that are obviously people wanting money, the OP has never asked for it, infact he has turned it down, asking for work etc.
So I think it’s a genuine case, we have exchanged numbers and I will speak to him tomorrow at some point, and arrange a meet up but more importantly he will always be able to ring when he gets low. Sometimes that is all anyone wants in life, after all it’s sometimes easier to talk to a stranger than a member of your family or close friends, especially when it relates to gambling etc.
Anyway much love.
“Don’t let your eyes decieve you, In complete darkness, We are all the same it’s only our knowledge and wisdom that separate us”
Glad you replied and much kudos to you for your offer of help to RealWhiskers, Im not doubting his genuinity like I said I have been down the same mindset as him (I believe, feeling of hhopelessness/loneliness not wanting to carry on etc) and got somewhat through it myself.
I guess my point was, dont be ashamed to accept help, my father always preached to me “dont look a gift horse in the mouth”.
If I was in this position I would reluctantly take up the offer of the first payment, Id swallow my pride knowing I can move forward.
I read the thread from start to now in one flow so maybe it read different but I just felt the OP didnt want to move fforward.
Anyways, I hope you pull through this RealWhiskers, its completely possible and in years to come maybe you’ll look back and be a stronger pperson.
Top man and great reply.
15th January 2019 at 11:38 pm #39174Just only a certain amount of this I can take. My head is completely destroyed.
I’m from Suffolk mate
whereabouts in Suffolk? I am also here and hearing this just makes me want to help. Im a huge advocate for mental health and speak about it on my live streams. My partner drinks way too much, i smoke way too much so maybe one day we can have a chat in a pub somewhere and have some plans of action in place. The pound a month works as I was on it and they HAVE to accept it as thats all you can afford. Food banks will help out also for times in need so you can save some cash to pay off other things. I know its the easiest thing to say to someone “dont worry” and the hardest thing for that person to actually do so I wont personally say it. I will say that you are welcome to come and chill with us ( me and fella) any time you feel you need someone there.
16th January 2019 at 1:13 am #39213Are you gambling at all mate ?? The doom and gloom had a familiar air to it, if you don’t mind me saying so. I’ve been in awful positions myself, and suffered the loss of my two parents when I was 21, I know real misery. You will be fine mate, whatever you’re fearing won’t come to fruition, you’re not going to jail, you’re not getting your door put through by bailiffs, you’ve got a bump in the road. You’ve contacted step change which is more than a massive percentage have managed to do. Enjoy your nights sleep, things are always worse when you’re tired, hoepfully the community has helped.
16th January 2019 at 9:50 am #39264Morning all!
Yeah I feel good today thanks! And thanks to everyone massively for all the support.
Where abouts in Suffolk are you? I’d like to meet at some point defo!
No I don’t gamble now mate. I felt now if I want to change I have to stop. Not bad anymore on slots etc anyway, haven’t been for a fair bit, was just previously years back I was bad that’s had an affect on me.
Sadly spoke to stepchange and they’ve said I can’t defer the first payment, but payments in the future like someone said yesterday you can defer for up to a few times a year.
listened to some music this morning, in a good mood!
16th January 2019 at 10:47 am #39295Well I’m glad you are feeling better buddy. I look at life differently now than I did say 25 years ago ( yes I’m old lol ) doing the job I do has helped me tremendously, when you work and have done for 20 years with people who have been dealt a really bad hand in life, you sort of question life a little, and realise it really is not that bad, yes at times we all get low or depressed but as has been said on here many times you can get out of it with help and determination.
I have respect that you had the balls to post and ask for advice and help, especially in the current climate on here where with it seems certain people are posting hard luck stories as they see how generous Steve has been, there will always be people who try i guess.
As I said to you early via text I will give you a bell tonight for a proper chat, you have my number now so feel free to ring or text anytime, and I will do my upmost to help.
Keep smiling
16th January 2019 at 3:09 pm #3938516th January 2019 at 3:25 pm #39387Such amazing people on this forum! @realwhiskers I hope your feeling better! I’ve been in a low place recently too! I’ve been gambling free for 4 years but after finding out how much sensory equipment is (my little lady is disabled and loves lights/bubbles etc) I’ve been tempted to come back and try to win enough but I know in the end I will lose and be worse off! Stay strong and well all get through these tough times!
16th January 2019 at 4:26 pm #39413Such amazing people on this forum! @realwhiskers I hope your feeling better! I’ve been in a low place recently too! I’ve been gambling free for 4 years but after finding out how much sensory equipment is (my little lady is disabled and loves lights/bubbles etc) I’ve been tempted to come back and try to win enough but I know in the end I will lose and be worse off! Stay strong and well all get through these tough times!
Hi Thisgirl2019,
Have you tried applying to the roaldahl charity? They can give financial help up to £1000 for eligible families. Might be worth looking at it.
16th January 2019 at 5:23 pm #39437Thanks all!! 🙂 feel happy today really positive. Anyone on here work for stepchange??
16th January 2019 at 5:55 pm #39456Hope you get things back in order mate.
Dont really understand what actually is making you feel suicidal here. Is it the debt, is it the lack of funds to socialise, is it family issues or is it all if the above mate?
Surely if its the debt, then this forum can and already has put you on the right path to start paying it off. Ive read the whole thread and i cant really believe that you wont accept the help that has been offered financially and socially. Its just strange to me.
If its just the talking about your problems that you want from us. Then im here for you pal.
I just have a wierd feeling about this post and i cant place it.
But good luck.
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