Profile : Fairzz

Stevie25 wrote:

Hi Fairzz….

I read all your story & I can relate to you, I’m a bit older than yourself and decided not to give up on gambling, lasting to gamble my head off for more years than you’ve lived.

A couple off pointers for you is, you/me have a dangerous addiction, it does not matter how much we win, the old saying about a room full of money is that a gambler will always ask for a bigger room. As no amounts of winning will be enough, No Amounts.

This is hard to get into your Gambling head, different people have different ways and means to give up gambling.

A few suggestions is… Load up YouTube on a quiet night of clear thinking and listen to

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It will help you understand your illness, and help you prepare for the future.

1. Do an act of kindness everyday for someone who does not know about it.

2. Get a hobbie, one that you enjoy, not something that’s seen as doing good.

3. Remember your Sick & need recovery time, usually for life.

4. Make amends to folk Helping you recover.

5. Be nice to yourself & remember all gamblers have a selfishness about them, so treat yourself more often.

6. Find someone to confide in, who you can goto on days your feeling bad or isolated.

7. Talk about your addiction & what triggers you feel. Or post here, if it helps you.

8. Only ever carry cash, leave all debit cards etc in the house.

9. If/When buying anything big, ask to meet someone to go shopping with you.

10. Find a routine that your comfortable with, to help in your day to day life, try not to get Down about not being able to gamble & see it as freeing your time up for more happy-go-lucky times.

And most importantly, do not feel bad about being an addict, as I’m sure your a great dude, and learn to love yourself again. ♥

Thank you, I will defo have a look at the video and a few more when I have time.

Thanks as well for the pointers and help I will 100% read those many times in the coming months or years as mantras to work by going forward

Malkychamp wrote:

Sorry to hear Fairzz. It is good now atleast that you can sit back and see its not a get rich quick scheme. Please don’t dissmiss GA though i haven’t been through this myself but did attend meetings when i had a friend going through real troubles hearing stories of others really did open my eyes to what troubles people can and do get themself into through gambling. Not sure if this is helpful in anyway way but for me personally i would say i also have an addictive personality but i dont really value money all that much so am kind of emotionless when playing. I try to use my addictive personally to an advantage I have set goals when i started it was daily/weekly/monthly and yearly I would persist no matter what to achieve these goals. This was actually something i took from a random guy at 1 of the meetings. It has really helped me to keep going the direction i want to in life, i think this can be really helpful not only keeping your mind off gambling but focused on other things that you want to achieve. Is there anything that you have wanted to do but just never had the time or money to do so? Try creating a plan and a time frame where it could be a reality and go for it. If it helps mine was to visit machu picchu and after starting my goals list i visited there after 7 months so of course it did take some time. The other was adding new hobbies running was my hobby of choice as it was something i used to do as child was also something i could do anytime anywhere really. I started this 4 years ago and still do it to this day, The list is your own if you choose to try this so you can add whatever you like of course.

Good luck mate

Thank you that really does help, Keeping my mind away from it is now the next thing I am concerned about (says he talking about it). I need to find a way to positively use the money that would be spent gambling and enjoy spending money on items or experiences again. I have greatly lost that sense of pride of owning something because I worked for it. Anything that I have bought in the past year if not more has been because of winning. In that moment I rush out and buy something I want and kept it as a sense of YEAH I WON THAT…. right up until I got into a deep loss hole and then the item went to cash generator for food, rent or more gambling funds. Ive hit a point where theres nothing of value left and I deeply want to find things I want and earn them again because I got up and went to work not just because I got fucking lucky finally on the slots.

A list of stuff to do and buy and a plan to save is something I will defo channel that energy into thank you 🙂

Hi Haz, Yeah the poker went on the back burner whilst I started looking for work and thankfully found a job quickly, not the best in the world but works work. Its a shame I have to do this as I would be lying if I said I didnt love it because I do. I love the thrill the feel the ups and downs but recently the downs have been coming harder and faster than in the past and thats not plausible anymore for me. Hopefully one day in the future I can get to a point where I can join you guys in the poker again cause it was a good laugh and play for fun and enjoyment rather than doing my bollocks in on book of dead or chilli on the second screen.

Look after yourself and thanks for the kind words.